Comments on: What Am I Doing With My Life? I Need Help With My Life.

By: Greenbacks Magnet

Greenbacks Magnet — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 20:12:06 +0000

In reply to Lily. Sad to hear that. Hope she can get it together. Best of luck to her.

By: Greenbacks Magnet

Greenbacks Magnet — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 20:10:39 +0000

In reply to Joe. I have learned tough love usually works best. You can offer guidance, help and some assistance, but you have to cure the disease not just treat or put a band-aid on the symptom. Usually people have to hit rock bottom before they come back up. Good luck to her.

By: MStephens

MStephens — Sat, 14 Jul 2018 04:12:12 +0000

I think I know what Soapy’s problem is.
She’s grown up with privilege and she’s seen it from all angles, so she’s not impressed with it. She sees there is hollowness in it, and she’s trying to find meaning and purpose. But yet, she hasn’t rejected the bits and pieces of materialism. She wants the good things, when she finds something that she likes.
She probably looks at the opportunities for education and partnership in family business and says to herself, “Yes, but why should I want that if I’ve already seen what it gets me?” There’s no mystery driving her with the hope that life will be all beautiful if she can just earn X-hundred-thousand-dollars a year.
She’s seen the work-aholics and she sees how their schedules are dominated by work. She sees how valuable freedom is. And she says to herself, “I don’t have to wait until I’ve earned X-dollars to have freedom. I don’t have to submit to this. I can have freedom right now.”
But her finances are sabotaged by her privileged non-money-aware upbringing of buying what is wanted when it’s wanted. And she’s not even aware of that. She doesn’t even realize she can scale down her material desires.
She’s also handicapped by her bad health.
Soapy probably sees people doing a lot of work that doesn’t sound fun to her, and she isn’t sure what she’d like.
Work she believes in will give her meaning and purpose. It will rejuvenate her drive. What Soapy needs is to discover the kind of work she likes to do. Once she figures out what she likes, she’d probably take off. To get to that point, she’s going to have to try lots of stuff. And have grunt jobs. But it will be hard getting to that point because her privileged upbringing probably makes her think that anything that doesn’t fit a certain set of requirements that she has in her mind isn’t real work or isn’t her kind of work. She will probably be happiest with work that she can create for herself.

By: Will

Will — Fri, 01 Jun 2018 23:31:20 +0000

In reply to Lily.

Just read it, an interesting story with a world that I may have encountered before. A place I can put up with, but not somewhere I particularly enjoy.

Give me somewhere that I can have hotpot or BBQ with people I care about, rich or poor, and it’ll be the best place in the world.

As for bursting bubbles… Errr… Sorry L. :L
(Jk, I’m actually not, it acts made me laugh. I’m very perverse like that, with a dark sense of humour to boot :P)

By: Lily

Lily — Thu, 31 May 2018 23:18:46 +0000

In reply to Will.

Oh Will I saw this post and immediately thought of what you said about IG. Have you heard/read it yet?

https://www.thecut.com/2018/05/how-anna-delvey-tricked-new-york.html

This is crayyyy cray. I saw it less than a hour after I had my IG bubble burst (by you :p). I really don’t understand why people WANT to live that way. It’s weird.

By: Will

Will — Thu, 31 May 2018 23:16:00 +0000

In reply to Lily.

Honestly, I would say you’re an optimistic realist. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I like that about you and it’s probably my favourite thing.

I would say on first glance people may mistake your optimism as naivety, but there’s a lot of percipience underneath it all. As for your perspective, I wouldn’t say you are particularly morbid (unless you’ve been dialling it down like I have ?); I can probably empathise if growing up in China shape some of it though. The dog eat dog mentality is slowly changing, at least with the younger generation that I encounter.

As for IG I’ll just say, it can be a platform where “pretty” girls can fund their ostentatious habits via unscrupulous means…

Here’s to wishing that Soap can leave the bad habits behind and cultivate the good ones she has. I hope that she also appreciates those that are fighting in her corner too.

By: Lily

Lily — Wed, 30 May 2018 19:26:02 +0000

In reply to Will.

I know exactly what you mean Will. I’m so on the fence, sometimes I’m like…WHAT ARE YOU DOING and sometimes I’m like “Wow this is hard, I can’t get out of this either if I was you.”

Instagram is known for prostitution?!? OK well, that makes sense. I knew I KNEW it was all fake. Oh my god, I have to tell Soaps about this. I don’t think she knows the shady stuff. I think she just hates her reality.

I like your view Will but most people consider me morbid too. I think aimless stopped being cute right after college.

By: Lily

Lily — Wed, 30 May 2018 19:20:12 +0000

In reply to The CFO. WOW that's so beautiful CFO!!! That's tweetable! There's only so many things one can control!